I took the couple who lost their baby back in June out to lunch today to catch up. They live at a park on the other side of town, so I don't see them everyday like I see the kids from the bridge. This time, almost 3 weeks had passed between visits, and when we met up at the park, I was greeted with big, bear hugs from both him and her. :)
It's hard to know how to help these two. She's from a very poor, very dysfunctional family, and he grew up on the streets with his family. They've been together for 8 years, and have had 4 babies... One's been adopted out of a home, and the other 3 are buried in the cemetery.
She told me today that she thinks she's pregnant again, but she got a pregnancy test at a clinic which came back negative. We had a chat about the dangers of having another baby on the streets, and I offered to take her to get the shot, but she won't do it. She's afraid of needles and (ironically) doesn't want to be all drugged up on the pills. So I tried to talk to them about condoms, but they just giggled... It's an incredibly frustrating situation, and even more so because there just aren't very many options for them. They're adults, over 20 years old, and they've been in and out of homes too many times... The home for couples won't take them back, and they won't split up. In their eyes, they're married.
2 comments:
I´m glad you took them to lunch...and that you´re there for them. And as much as I love babies, I´m glad she´s not pregnant.
You could have her get an IUD, which is long lasting, doesn't require drugs or needles and is way easier for her to maintain, and the new ones are quite safe, especially if she's monogamous
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