Those tiny little baby minds and baby hearts learn early on whether or not they are safe and loved. But what happens when that baby isn't safe and isn't loved? What happens when that baby turns into a neglected little toddler who has already learned that crying doesn't do any good and nobody cares that he's hungry? Within the first few years of his life, he's already learned to shut down his emotions and never sheds a tear. He becomes withdrawn. He grows up not trusting anyone or depending on anyone. He lives day to day, not sure who would really care if he were to disappear tomorrow. He doesn't know how to love or be loved. When his emotions break through to the surface, he can't control them, and he doesn't understand them. He surrounds himself with people like himself until his group self-destructs. And the worst thing is that he is doomed to repeat the cycle when he inevitably has a child of his own.
At the very core level, I want to teach the kids on the streets love. And it can't be a love that comes from humans because we screw up. We screw up big time. This country is full of the evidence of how humanity has screwed up. Just look around. Crippled old grannies begging for coins on the streets... Three year olds trained to sing and dance for handouts from the tourists... Toxic rivers and garbage covered streets... Starving dogs on every block... Six year old girls selling candy and cigarettes to drunk men in the bars all night long...
Everything about this is wrong. But don't think that Bolivia is some exception. Things are different but equally bad everywhere else.
I think that we as humans have been robbed of love. We're lost and hurting, and deep down inside we are looking for what we're missing: love... relationship and safety. It's the first thing we long for when we're born... We scream and cry for Mom's love and comfort. It's ingrained in us, I think, because we're made in God's image.
And God is love.
And God is community.
And that's what we're created for: love and community with God and with one another. It's simple.
So I have this wild idea to take those babies who have never known love and who've grown up into lost and hurting adults, and bring them into community... into love. And Casa Koinonia will be just that: community and love.
The more we know God and spend time with him, the more his love will wear off on us, and the more those babies (now adults) will understand love and understand God. And their lives will change forever.
5 comments:
LOVE this. I agree. And I truly hope that this endeavor works out better than any of us humans can imagine because it is God's project through your hands! Love you so much Amy and can't wait to keep up with your newest project!
I love your vision, Amy! I've been reading a (big) book lately about attachment (the nature and physiology of it), and it has been so eye opening. When a loving attachment isn't made with a caring adult, children become peer-oriented, and that leads to all kinds of problems. The need for secure attachment is a deep, subconscious thing, and if that need isn't met, a person will do anything to try and meet it (gain acceptance from whoever they are trying to attach to), although attachment can't actually be earned, it's a natural extension of a loving unconditional relationship. But our brains are programmed to place attachment as a primary need, necessary for survival, just as food and air is. That's why teenagers have no problem breaking the law if it's "cool" and will gain them acceptance. Not having a secure attachment is also very emotionally painful, leading to drug use or other things to dull the pain. When there IS a secure attachment, the child feels free to pursue his/her interests, is able to mature properly, and eventually be a self-sufficient person. The book has also revealed to me how important it is to have a secure attachment to God, and how that's not something we can ever earn, it truly is a gift. If we accept that, then we are free to be who God made us to be. It's amazing. (Sorry to write so much!)
Kelly, that books sounds brilliant. Thanks so much for sharing! I need to get my hands on some resources like that, because, really, I'm just winging it and trying to rely on God for understand and insight into what the kids need most. I went to college to study Theology thinking it was what I needed to be a missionary, but boy was I wrong... If you know of any online resources or have any suggestions, I'd love to hear them! :) Bless you!
This was great Amy! Fully worth the wait! =)
Thanks, Ken. I'm gonna try to actually do this more often... :)
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